People say that funerals are really more for the living than the dead. I can’t say that I disagree with that statement. The person that is no longer alive will not be aware of what is going on. If you do not get the right flowers, or their favorite color of flower they will not know the difference. I think that the living do things like find a monuments dealer in Essex County NJ so that they can find something that they will want to visit when they go to the grave. It is not uncommon for people to pick something on the memorial that they want to have represent the person that they no longer have in their life. When my aunt died, I was the person who was responsible for her headstone. I went and got something that she would like, but that reminded me more of her.
When I was in college, I got to go to Paris so that I could study for a semester. I studied art and there is no place else in the world that has the museums that Paris has. This means that their art exhibits and catalogs are very thorough. I knew that I wanted to invite my aunt to come because she had always wanted to be in Paris but never had anyone to go with. I had her come to the city when I knew that I was going to have a one week break. When it came to picking out what to put on her stone, I knew that the tower in Paris was something that she loved, and I got to experience that with her. I had the tower put on her headstone and she was so happy about it, I knew it in my heart that it was the right thing to do.